Teach, Preach and Reach out with Kindness
Updated: Jul 25, 2018
Tuesday, May 8, 2018
“Be known for being kind.”
– Signe Whitson
Over the last two months, we’ve highlighted, in all seriousness, about bullying from both spectrums - being parents of victims as well as bullies.
However, what happens if you’re a parent of a child who is a witness of bullying? What should you do? Should you teach your child to run? Or to stand up bravely to stop bullying?
Did you know that it’s scientifically proven that acts of kindness can stop bullying? A positive attitude teaches children to be loving and have empathy towards others. When children are kind, bullying can come to an end.
To do so, parents and children need to work together to create a happier and healthier environment, so that the world becomes a better place to live in.
Together, let’s spark the anti-bullying flame and keep the furnace burning. Here are 3 simple and practical skills you can teach your child to help put a stop to bullying in our society.
Researchers in York University and Queen University have found that when children stand up against bullies, incidences of bullying tend to stop within 10 seconds, more than 50 % of the time.
Your child can play an effective role in stopping these bullies by standing for others with just one statement.
Teach your child to use safe statements that are meant to interrupt bullying such as “Hey, you need to stop that. It’s not going to help with anything” or “That’s not cool.” Doing so can interrupt a bullying situation and stop it. Practice this at home to help your child be comfortable with intervening if the need arises.
However, if the bullying situation has turned violent, teach your child to seek immediate help from an adult.
DO NOT keep mum
Actions speak louder than words and this is a wonderful example of the idiom. If verbal intervention does not work or if the situation is not right for it, teach your child how to get help.
Explain to your child what bullying is and tell him or her that it is important not to cheer or even watch quietly if someone is being bullied.
Instead, encourage your child to tell a trusted adult such as a school teacher or counsellor about the incident immediately.
Explain to your child that it is important to be there for the victim. Due to peer pressure or the lack of understanding, a child may think that mingling with bullied victims will make them look ‘weak’. Assure your child that this is definitely not true.
The act of friendship and compassion can make a difference. Encourage your child to approach the victim and let them know that he or she is there to help him or her. This also includes including the person in activities.
It is important for children to understand the importance to stand up and speak out. Help your child to understand that a healthy learning environment can be achieved if everyone is kind to one another. As parents, it is not only about teaching but also encouraging your child. When your child tried to do the right thing, remember to praise and reward him or her for being brave and standing up against bullies.
Together, let’s make the world a better place for all children.
Kindness Through the Pages
These fun and beautifully illustrated books are wonderful learning tools to teach your child kindness and empathy: